Cara: Getting Pregnant in College
I can’t write this from first person, I’ve never been pregnant nor will I ever be pregnant (I’m unable to bear children). However, I do notice from my brother’s “baby mama” which is essentially all she is to him, how hard this actually is. No, I’m not living it first hand, so I can’t tell you all of the struggles, but I admire her more than I have ever admired anyone for putting up with my brother’s lies and staying up late and getting up early with a baby.
You could say that this tiny girl, who is 5’1 and maybe 95lbs soaking wet is my hero. She’s taking classes to finish high school at a nearby technical college, she’s working towards getting a degree and all with a baby at home! She’s given up her whole life to this beautiful child at the age of 18. She is truly an amazing woman.
A few of you may recall my “Pregnant Women Should be Fired” post from a little while back, but many of you (including some of my own close friends) misunderstood the message of the post. I have no vendetta against pregnant women. If you read the post then you would know. I have a vendetta over pregnant women who think that because they’re pregnant it’s time to be lazy and complain and go home early. No. It’s not. My brother’s “baby mama” isn’t like that.
No, she doesn’t have a job, but why should she get one? My brother works, my parents help support the baby and the WiC program buys formula every month for our little bundle of joy. Plus, she’s a part time student and a full-time mom and isn’t that enough to make most of us want to pull our hair out?
Now, here’s some things this mom wants you guys to know about pregnancy at a young age. Yes, she got pregnant, no it wasn’t the end of the world. Yeah, a lot of your “friends” will turn their backs on you because…you know I’m not even really sure why. Hormones, maybe?
But just because you get pregnant doesn’t mean you have to give up your life.
She says it was like a gift, a second chance that forced her to get off drugs and make a change in her life. She’s an extraordinary person and I applaud everyone who had children and goes through college anyways. Because just from my viewpoint it looks hard.
“It’s a struggle sometimes”
is something she often says, but she wants to remind everyone that it is possible. It is worth it and she will finish her high school through tech and move on to her degree.